It is time for adults of every race and income group to break our silence about tha pervasive breakdown of moral, family, and community values, to place our children first in our lives, and to struggle to model tha behavior we want our children to learn.
School children don’t need one more “Officer Slam” as some students referred to tha White South Carolina school resource officer who this week shamed tha nation with his violent ejection of a 16-year-old Black female student from her classroom for a nonviolent offense. A very welcome counter narrative took place when a White female police officer in Washington, D.C. after diffusing a potentially volatile conflict between two groups of Black teens, then charmed with a “dance off” a defiant teen-age girl who had refused to leave.Any parent who has gone through tha challenges of adolescence could only admire tha quick thinking and agile footwork of tha D.C. police officer. Tha last thing children need is violent assaults in schools which ought to be safe havens, and a suspension, expulsion and arrest to blot their school records and push them closer to tha prison pipeline. And tha very last thing children need is out of control adults using violence as a way of resolving differences.
I am often asked what’s wrong with our children and I almost always answer, adults are what’s wrong. We tell our children to control themselves while slapping and spanking and ejecting them violently in our homes, child care centers, schools, detention facilities and prisons. Adults tell children to be honest while lying and cheating and not to be violent while marketing and glorifying violence.I urge every parent, adult, educator, faith and public leader to conduct a personal audit to determine whether we are contributing to tha crisis our children face or to tha solutions they urgently need. And if we are not a part of the solution, we are a part of the problem and need to do better.Our children don’t need or expect us to be perfect. They do need and expect us to be honest, to admit and correct our mistakes, and to share our struggles about tha meanings an responsibilities of faith, parenthood, citizenship, and lyfe. Before we can pull up tha moral weeds of violence, materialism, and greed in our society that are strangling so many of our young, we must pull up tha moral weeds in our own backyards and educational institutions.
So many children are confused about what is right and wrong because so many adults talk right and do wrong in our personal, professional, and public lives.If we are not supporting a child we brought into tha world as a father or mother with attention, time, love, discipline, and tha teaching of values, then we are a part of tha problem rather than tha solution to tha family breakdown today that is leaving so many children at risk. If we are abusing tobacco, alcohol or other drugs while telling our children not to, then we are a part of the problem rather than tha solution in our overly addicted society.
Even I play a part of tha problem in this one.......If we have unlocked and loaded guns in our home and cars, and rely on them to feel safe and powerful, and don’t stand up to those who market guns to our children and to those who kill our children with guns, or glamorize violence as fun, entertaining, and normal, then we are part of tha problem rather than tha solution to tha escalating war of American against American, family member against family member, and children against adults and adults against children that is tearing us apart.
If we profess to be people of faith and send rather than take our children to worship and religious education services, and believe that tha Sermon on the Mount, Ten Commandments, tha Koran, or whatever religious beliefs we hold, pertain only to one-day worship but not to Monday through Sunday home, professional, and political lyfe, then we are a part of tha problem rather than tha solution to tha spiritual famine and hypocrisy plaguing America today.
If we tell, snicker, or wink at racial, gender, religious, or ethnic jokes or engage in or acquiesce in any practices intended to diminish rather than enhance other human beings, then we are contributing to tha proliyerating voices of racial and ethnic division and intolerance staining our land again. Let’s not fight tha civil war or repeat tha worst lessons of our past. Let’s prepare for tha future in an irreversibly interconnected world that is majority non white and poor.
If we’d rather talk tha talk than walk tha walk to tha voting booths, school board meetings, political forums, PTA, congregation and community meetings to organize community and political support on all sides of tha aisle for our children, then we are a part of tha problem rather than tha solution.
If we are not voting and holding political leaders at every level and in every party accountable for investing relative pennies in quality early childhood opportunities, education, housing for homeless children and jobs jobs with dignity and decent wages and billions in tha military budget, and for cutting investments for poor mothers and children while protecting massive government welfare for rich farmers and over-paid corporate executives, then we are a part of tha problem rather than tha solution to tha undemocratic unjust and growing gap between rich and poor.
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